內容真是驚人的平易近人卻實用
幾乎像是常識
但看看這世界常態的模樣
又證明這些並不那麼廣泛被理解接受
"痛苦受傷是人生無可避免的過程"。
就像一輩子沒有經歷過跌倒割傷擦傷的人
大概絕無僅有一樣
生理如此
心理同樣不例外
"be honest and truthful with how you feel, but don't dwell on it"
給自己時間哀悼 面對自己的感受 擺爛躺平
but don't dwell on it for a long time
the longer you are in, it's harder to get out.
not dwelling is an active choice.
即使沒辦法百分之百回到日常
做出相應的努力和行為仍然很重要
(e.g.沒有餘力運動
至少穿上運動服 走進健身房
或試著正常飲食睡眠)
"it could be 'comfortably unhappy/sad'"
痛苦不快樂可以是種舒適(習慣)的狀態
因為停留在當下的已知
是出於迴避面對不想面對的事物的應對手段
"but coping is not the same as healing"
"time alone doesn't help healing
it'd work with you
but it's not going to make any differenrce without works
or the world would be full of seniors who have got everything resolved"
"no one can help someone who doesn't want to be helped"
/prefers to stay at their current status
轉移注意力 工作 約會 下一段感情
Temporary measures would most likely take a toll in the long run.
"世界充滿卡在受傷的狀態而互相傷害的人們"
This opens a door for you to be detached from the situation
or others' behavior.
It's not about you.
It's never about you.
"心理健全的人不會內化他人的對待/行為"
"Put the hurt out in front of you."
用中文做這個練習很困難
得用英文
這點本身就點出其中某些問題
Apparently the 2nd language creates a buffer for you
to hold an emotional distance from the issue.
I am not sure if this defeats the purpose.