You have certain expectations of someone in your life, partially based on
what you have come to believe about them, and partly on what you want them
to be. You may be narrowing down the relationship you could have with this
person and limiting its potential. Instead of limiting or restricting what
this relationship could become if your walls weren't up, just encourage
the individual to show their true colors and simply be themselves. You may
find that the person you discover is far more interesting and exciting
than the one you only thought you knew.
你對生命裡的某個人有著一定程度的期待，有一部份是基於你對他的看法，而另一部
份則是出於你想要他成為怎麼樣的人。你也許正在壓縮跟這個人的關係，並且限制這
段關係的發展潛力。如果你的心牆尚未高築，那麼與其限制或約束這段關係的走向，
不如就鼓勵這個人展現他最真實的模樣，然後讓他做最純粹的自己。你可能會發現你
找到的這個人，遠比你認識的他還要更有趣、更讓你感到興奮。