Either he or I am wrong.
Either he or I are wrong.
Are either he or you wrong?
either...or多和單數名詞或代名詞連用，但是常用複數動詞。
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Neither we nor John is wrong.
Neither we nor John are wrong.
Are neither we nor John wrong?
Are both we and John correct?
Neither... nor連接第三人稱和第一人稱、或是連接第二人稱和第三人稱時，用複數動詞
聽起來會比較自然
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